This is a (tenuous) follow on from the previous blog. “I LIKE YOU…….DO YOU?
After re reading it I began to question the meaning of FRIEND/S.
Also – I was asked this, in my recent therapy session by the psychologist.
The actual question/s were:
Did you not have friends when you were younger?
And what about now?
We all go through different phases of ‘friends’; I believe.
When we first start kindy / prep school, there is the never ending encouragement of “making” friends. God forbid if we are just quiet and want to play on our own and not with 30+ other personalities.
What if you are isolated by distance from other children? Such as my siblings and I were in earlier years. Or even greater distances like children on large outback stations or ranches. Then sent away to boarding school at 8+ years old. how does the formation of friends impact this?
There is the interaction of parents and family that shapes our “friendships”. Some are because your parents (family members) are ‘friends with other families. And there is the expectation that you and little Johnny or jenny are just going to get along fine. ‘
And some people do become friends through this interaction and do so for a certain number of years. Then we, all, begin to mature, move house, school, or church, sporting league etc.…Where we begin to cultivate or find new ‘friends’.
Once again, these ‘friends’ last as long as the life process allows it to be and a new cycle begins – marriage, divorce, work situations, birth of children, either your own or theirs.
Like swirls in a moving stream we move from one group of ‘friends’ to another. Some stay for most of our lives. I can think of an Aunt and Uncle who have another couple as their best friends. It seems neither couple can do anything without the other. This in a way is admirable BUT I think these types of friendships are more about their own ability to socialize. Look at groups who go holidaying together every time. Is this healthy? Or is it they are so complacent that they really do not reach out to other people who actually may want to be more than acquaintance’s with them.
Then there are your work colleagues. They are friends to a degree but at the office door is pretty much where that friendship starts and finishes on a day to day basis.
So back to the questions. I think I did have friends when I was younger but none of them lasted that long. And as, for now, no not really. As the true Capricorn that I am I find being on my own empowering because it allows me to come and go as I please without having to justify why I am doing XYZ. I do like my work mates so Yes I do have friends; of sorts.